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PROFILE OF EARLY WARNING SIGNS OF UPSCALE DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
©Dr. Susan Weitzman

There are many aspects to this profile; here is an initial and partial list. For a more detailed list, see Not to People Like Us: Hidden Abuse in Upscale Marriages.

Upscale violence has some features similar to any type of domestic abuse and some unique to this group. Here are some examples:

For a more complete list of early warning signs , refer to Appendix D in Not to People Like Us: Hidden Abuse in Upscale Marriages (Basic Books, 2000. ISBN: 0-465-09073-7, $ 26.00)

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PROFILE OF THE UPSCALE ABUSED WOMAN
©Dr. Susan Weitzman

There are many aspects to this profile; here is an initial and partial list. For a more detailed list, see Not to People Like Us: Hidden Abuse in Upscale Marriages.

  • No prior personal exposure or experience of domestic abuse either in her family of origin or her peer group.
  • Used to being successful at endeavors "making things happen." A go-getter, she is self sufficient, highly resourceful, successful at surmounting highly unfavorable conditions.
  • Tries to single-handedly "fix" the abuse in her marriage/relationship.
  • Feels great shame about her husband's abusive behaviors as well as her inability to make things better/right.
  • Believes the myth that domestic abuse "doesn't happen to people like us."
  • Isolates from others as she fears being disbelieved/ostracized from her peer group and family.
  • Often is disbelieved or overlooked by helping professionals and other law enforcement and legal professionals.
  • Feels alone and trapped by her own privilege.
For a more complete list of traits of the abused woman, refer to Appendix B in Not to People Like Us: Hidden Abuse in Upscale Marriages (Basic Books, 2000. ISBN: 0-465-09073-7, $ 26.00)

PROFILE OF THE UPSCALE BATTERER
©Dr. Susan Weitzman

There are many aspects to this profile; here is an initial and partial list. For a more detailed list, see Not to People Like Us: Hidden Abuse in Upscale Marriages.

For a more complete list of traits of the upscale batterer, refer to Appendix C in Not to People Like Us: Hidden Abuse in Upscale Marriages (Basic Books, 2000. ISBN: 0-465-09073-7, $ 26.00)



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